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Motivation VS Fear

I have a tendency to be lazy when it comes to physical activity. It has always been more natural for me to “train” my mind and spirit, but without moving my butt, unless it was absolutely necessary and never without complaint.

I have started all different kinds of physical activities, being driven by a sense of duty, of an underhand fear of ageing or scared of being judged. All of which relentlessly concluded after just a few weeks, due to a complete lack of real motivation and enjoyment.

When we do something by obligation or fear (of ageing, of illness, of being judged) the energy that drives us to do it is usually tied to distancing ourselves from something that we want, rather than bringing us closer to something we love. Therefore, it becomes an energy that goes towards contraction, not towards expansion or growth.

Up until now, I have never found real motivation to rejoice in doing some kind of physical activity in a consistent manner. Then I read a book, that caused me to make that decision. It brings together in a very clear and simple way, the importance of moving the body with spiritual evolution, that is by all means the most important thing in my life, because it touches every aspect: relationships, health, work, etc.

Motivation towards something is very important, no matter what it is. It is the true thrust behind the continuation of doing something in a consistent, easy and natural way. At that point, the concepts of sacrifice, perseverance, and heroism in doing something that causes us to suffer completely disappear, and they transform into satisfaction, enjoyment, discovery and evolution.

It is a very important change in paradigm, since the concepts shown above (sacrifice, suffering…) have always had a great appeal, especially when tied to success; just think about how many movies and books have celebrated these concepts. I believe that this is outdated and that this approach is no longer necessary.

Discover what you love to do, what is really important in your life. Transform the limiting beliefs that are not allowing you to follow your innate passion and then enjoy life in its splendid beauty and simplicity.

A big hug

Duccio

The “Secret/no Secret” about being Successful

I have spent a large amount of my life trying to be “perfect” so that I could be accepted and loved.

This demeanor of mine, along with the want to make everyone happy, is a sure way to failure in every aspect of life, believe me.

So what is the true essence of success? It’s so obvious that it is underestimated: be yourselves at 100%.

Show your talents and your weaknesses, be ready to be vulnerable and stay calm when up against the criticism of those who don’t understand you. Learn to laugh about your weaknesses that will transform into your strength. In other words, be proud of who you are.

I believe that the most important practice we can do for our own evolution is not to copy modalities of success of other people, but to shed day after day those veils that cover our essence. If you really want to be like Steve Jobs, Richard Branson, the Dalai Lama or others that you see as an example, then copy their courage to be themselves.

Lots of “gurus” and successful people propose infallible programs and methods to be like them (yes, you have understood correctly, to be like them, and this makes it very difficult for you to be yourselves), without taking into consideration that it worked for them, that it worked due to their belief system, because of their history and because of who they uniquely are.

Being their clones does not work, being yourselves, does.

This is one of the many reasons I love PSYCH-K. During workshops or sessions, success or behavior models are not given. The person is given the possibility to be his/herself, in all their beauty and uniqueness. In addition, it is always the person that chooses whom to be.

The only advice given during the courses is to be inspired by Nature that coincidentally, is always itself. (I have never seen a cat doing a workshop to become a successful fox).

Ever since, I have known PSYCH-K I have shed many veils, and I know there are still more (life is an ongoing evolution), but one thing I can say to you: I wouldn’t want to be anyone else and I love to meet and be with people who are proud to be themselves, who, coincidentally happen to be very successful…

A big hug

Duccio

I Remember the Future

I am writing this post from Crestone, in Colorado, USA, where I am with Rob Williams, founder of  PSYCH-K, and Robin Graham, director of the PER-K program.

Rob is a visionary, a person who is able to “see” things before others. He is able to perceive the possible consequences, on a global level, of a decision which may seem optimal in the present moment, but can have a disastrous effect on the long term.

It brings to my mind the example of the “butterfly effect“: the idea is that small variations in an initial phase can produce huge variations to a system on a long term. In other words, a flap of the wings of a butterfly on the Earth can cause a terrible storm in another part of the Universe.

We often make decisions based on the immediate benefit they give us, without considering the long term effects they can have.

Being able to “remember the future” just as we remember the past would give us an enormous help in understanding the effect our decisions and actions have on our reality and on that of others. It would stop us from making rushed decisions that are tied to primary needs, and we would be able to see the “Big Picture” or “Forest” rather than focusing just on ourselves or just on our “tree”.

If you like this idea and you are familiar with PSYCH-K, you can balance “I remember the future” or any other belief statement that this post stimulated within you.

A big hug!

Duccio

Is Diversity important for our evolution?

I believe that the Principles of Nature mentioned in the  PSYCH-K Basic Workshop are amazing tips for working on every aspect of life.

One of these is “Diversity”, a difficult concept on one hand, because it brings us out of our comfort zone, but on the other hand very enriching.

Think about the importance of diversity in relationships: it is one of the major sources of stress and one of the great opportunities to have expansive and stimulating relationships.

It can be natural for us to hug our partner, or it can make us uncomfortable because they are different to us, because they don’t do things our way or because their habits are different to ours.

We often try to mould the other person to be our own image or similar to us, not through maliciousness, but just to remain in a territory that is familiar to us, because our subconscious loves what it is familiar with and often perceives change as dangerous.

To recognize and appreciate the uniqueness and the diversity of our partner (or of any person, object, and idea) is an essential aspect to having amazing relationships and to be able to grow in an exponential way.

If we surround ourselves with people the same as us or try to change others so they are like us, this drastically reduces our opportunity to evolve and grow.

The image I chose for this post helps us understand that in order to create a masterpiece of art it is important to use different colours. In the viewpoint Oneness, acknowledging, understanding and giving value to what is different to us (in such, we are One), enriches a part of us which would otherwise be under developed. In order to make our life into a complete masterpiece it may be useful to accept honour and embrace diversity.

Also within a therapeutic environment, this is fundamental. In PSYCH-K we often refer to the concept of Isumataq: “the person who keeps the sacred space in which wisdom reveals itself”.

The PSYCH-K facilitator is the Isumataq, keeper of the sacred space where the partner feels safe and able to access his/her own wisdom to find the solutions to his/her problems.

An excellent Isumataq respects the diversity of the person with whom they are working, they give them value, and they understand and reinforce their strong points without trying to impose a solution.

I hope this post is useful for you!

A big hug until next time!