A lot has been said about judgment towards others and ourselves. To destructively criticize other people does not have its advantages, a part from satisfying the ego and to hide our problems momentarily by focusing on those of others.
I believe that at the base of every criticism towards others, there is an attitude to criticize ourselves, which corresponds to a fine line of masochistic pleasure of punishing ourselves.
Besides “destructive” criticism there can also be “constructive” criticism, which I prefer to call “advice from the heart” seeing as the word “criticism” often has a negative interpretation.
If we were able to transform all of the destructive criticism, towards others, and ourselves into advice from the heart (belief ready to balance for those who know PSYCH-K), our lives and those of others would change profoundly.
While I was balancing with PSYCH-K regarding this (I was a champion at criticizing myself and others) I felt the clear awareness that destructive criticism has no reason to exist. The only ones, who would have theoretically the right to use it are perfect people, illuminated, those who have no flaws, and those who have reached this level are highly unlikely to fall into the trap of the ego. Everyone else has no right to criticize destructively, here the “who cast the first stone” is very fitting.
There is a beautiful quote by an unknown Apache warrior that says: “Great Spirit, help me never to judge another until I have walked in his moccasins”.
This, in my opinion, summarizes perfectly all of this. Before judging someone try to know something about them, about their past, about their beliefs. At this point, instead of criticizing behind their back, begin to recognize what pushes them to behave in a certain way and then, if you believe it is useful, give this person advice from the heart on what they can do instead (rather than telling that person what they should not do).
You can balance to transform destructive criticism into advice from the heart, to understand whom you have in front of you and the reason for their behaviour, and to recognize the need they are satisfying by acting this way. You can put this into practice the next time you will have the urge to criticize someone. Some advice: apply the balances and relative action plans first to yourself.
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